The Power of “I don’t know” And “I need help”


Ginny, a 4-year-old, has a radial club hand. She is wearing a brace/cast on her right arm to support her wrist. The muscles in the fingers of her right hand are not like the ones in the left hand. So, if she is trying to wear a skirt or button her top, or tie a lace- she needs someone’s help. Is seeking help a sign of a lack of independence for her? What if you are there with Ginny and she insists that she doesn’t want your help. She tries to button her top, struggling for many minutes. She still does not want your help. What will you do?


Instead of correcting Ginny, Chandana, and the mom in the park, first, check if the answers to the following questions are ‘Yes’ for you:

  1. Taking help means I am weak.
  2. Everyone should be independent.
  3. I should do as much as possible on my own.
  4. If I don’t have the answers to the questions that my children ask, they would think I am not smart.
  5. Even if I don’t have all the information, I can still share my opinion and that is good enough.
  6. Even if I have not read or experienced XYZ, I can still share what I think to help someone with XYZ.



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